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W
e need a better understanding of how the feelings, body and mind are connected and how our psyche works to release difficult feelings on our own.  The best way is to start using these Keys when an unpleasant feeling occurs in your daily life. This may be a challenge, but believe me, it is what open doors to greater insights. Simply realize, that your feelings are your own, no one else's! Don't project them on others.

So when you experience situations that make you react emotionally, you can find what is inside of you. By stopping, reflecting and realizing exactly what you feel and why, doors start to open.  See it as a sport, a competition with yourself!  There may be a situation at your working place, a conflict within the family or simply uncomfortable thoughts and emotions that keep returning.

When we understand how situations triggering our emotions are created by our own subconscious thoughts and feelings, we understand that those situations show us the way to our inner landscape.  We can find situations that happened long ago because we carry the memory in our cells, even if our conscious mind has forgotten.  The work is incredibly exciting... You won't need detective stories anymore!

First position - here and now

The first thing you need to do, is to sit down and feel the emotion. Recognize what you feel and put it in words: I realize that I feel... Realize everything you feel in detail and why you feel that way. Say it in many ways, and you will discover that some ways hit better than others. Be honest with yourself and do this thoroughly with everything you feel. You see, when you sit down to do this, more emotions might show up. If they are painful, none of them serve you to carry on with. They come to the surface when you give yourself time, when you allow yourself to feel..

As you acknowledge your emotions you might start getting pictures from memories in your mind. You also might start seeing how this emotional pattern that you are unveiling is creating situations in your life, by seeing a row of memories. We call them parallels.

Suddenly you might remember a painful childhood memory that somehow resemble the situation you experience now.. You see and know immediately that you have come to the roots of these particular feelings, the oldest wound that needs to be healed first of all. Go there by your imagination, be present in the memory and be fully the one you were then. Then the feelings come flowing as soon as you start realizing. Your soul is actually there, because it is the soul's nature.

If you don't remember any specific situation, but still have those feelings, you can use a pendulum for help. Bring your feelings from the present along and ask your higher consciousness for help. Use your intuition. Read more on the button, "Finding the memory".

Second position,  accepting that it happened, realizing what you feel.

Stay in the memory and admit all your feelings by saying it out loud to yourself, if you can. That works the best. (You need to be alone when releasing.)  The more thoroughly, the better. Are there things you need to face, that you have not been willing to feel because it was to painful? Be honest with yourself!

The basic is to say:  I realize that I feel....  because... about all the feelings that come up in you. This is the sentence we recommend to use. It is NOT enough, just to feel the feelings. You have to use the word realize, admit or a similar words that works for you for each of the emotion coming up.  Remember to find WHY you felt that way. Say things in different ways until you hit the feeling fully and repeat the sentence until the feeling fades. (If it is very painful so that you cannot stop crying, please take a break and let your soul work for you a while. You calm down and when you go back to the situation, you may feel that the pain has let go.

Many of the feelings might be rather complicated, so take your time. You will realize that the feelings and the memory may be of a different kind than what you thought at first. The sentences may get 2 and 3 parts, for example: I realize that I feel a deep grief because I feel unworthy. Or, I realize that I feel ashamed that I am not able to take responsibility. All variations of feelings are hidden inside of us! You need to find your combinations and unlock the codes of your life!

Third position, comforting the inner child (or adult)

When you feel that you have emptied yourself, feeling calmer, you can move into this position: Be the one you are today and see yourself at than time from outside, as if you go into the picture. Sit down with yourself. Take yourself on the lap or hold your arms around you. Empty the space by removing the people involved and create a place to sit down if there isn't one already. You are the master of your life! This works for real. Be then and there fully.

Say to the person you were then(child, youngster or adult): I love you just the way you are. I love you, even if you feel sad.... I love you even if you feel that you aren't good enough, even if you want to die... and so on.
(say the things you really felt).
Then take time to say all the loving words you can to your soul. Your soul needs to hear it. Imagine you whisper in the ear of the person you were then: "I am proud of you, it is OK. Your nature is pure love and joy. You just had to try out something else. You are made of love, my wonderful ....." use your own name!

If you haven't got in contact with your inner child's emotions before, you do it now. If you in this posision start crying, you need to go back to the first position to admitting/realizing all the feelings coming up. Very often, when we see ourselves from outside, our conpassion is awakened and we really get to the depth of ourselves. I warmly recommend to do this. This is what really heals your wounds!

Fourth position, forgiveness

When you feel that you have faced all the feelings and you feel calmer, there might still be a feeling of unease...? You always need to forgive or/and ask of forgiveness.
In most cases, the very first you need is to forgive yourself. Most cultures didn't teach us to take care of ourselves. Feel and think through. Be in the memory whilst doing all the forgiving. At the same time, bring in your mature you, reasonable you. This is necessary.

Bring in the persons in your story one by one and say out loud what you feel, without blaming. (If you blame, you need to go back to accept your need to blame and forgive yourself. Is there still guilt in you that make you do that?) Tell them that you forgive them because you see that they carry their own baggage from their own childhood and that you understand that their wounds made them do what they did.

People I have met might tell me that they have forgiven their parents for what they felt they did to them, but when it comes to the certain situations, they see that the anger or bitterness towards their parents is still there. It needs to be faced. 

Some might have a perceptions of their parents that they are perfect so they deny the feelings from their childhood. This is not a matter of accusing, dear friends, it is a matter of forgiving! Nobody is "perfect"! We don't need to be perfect! Our parents don't need to ne perfect. We need to allow each other as well as ourselves to be loved, even if we are not perfect.

I think that most people do their best they can according their belief systems and emotional baggage. That is very important. Know that everybody is on their path in the great school of life. All have different baggage and upbringing. We don't know what the others feel or think. We know, however, that they are a part of the same huge, organism that we are. When we all start thinking differently, everybody will take care of themselves, giving each other freedom...........!

By starting taking responsibility for our feelings, forgiving and setting free ourselves and others we start a very huge and important development for the entire humanity. The more people who see this, the more we create a wonderful community together.

Inger Susaeg, Norway